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Robert W. Odom Ph. D.

I have shared the story of Tamar and Rahab, but today, we will look at the life and story of Ruth. The theme of this story is hope. When all seems lost, the redeemer comes through. While Tamar and Rahab would make good Lifetime or Netflix movies, Ruth would be a beautiful hallmark movie.

Our story begins with Naomi and Elimelech moving to Egypt because of the famine. They had two sons, Mahlon and Chilion. The sons married two women from Moab named Ruth and Orpah. After some time, Elimelech died. Ten years later, Malon and Chilion died. We do not know why they died, but we know life was hard then.

Because of the death of these men, Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah were left alone. They would have to fend for themselves. Therefore, Naomi returned to Bethlehem, where she had family and friends. She gave Ruth and Orpah the option of moving back with their families. She strongly encouraged them to do so. Orpah chose to do so, but Ruth stayed with her.

Ruth’s commitment was epic. So much so that her quote is one of the most used at weddings. In Ruth 1:16-18 Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.” 18 And when Naomi saw that she was determined to go with her, she said no more.

What a statement of commitment and connectedness. While this was a blessing, Naomi was still grieving the loss of her husband and her sons. In fact, when she returned to Egypt, she wanted her name changed to Marra. It was a play on words.  Naomi means pleasure, and Marra means sorrow. She was filled with sorrow and grief. It is noteworthy that we never see that she was called this.

When they arrived in Bethlehem, Ruth met Boaz, a farmer who allowed Ruth to reap the grain she and Naomi needed from his fields. Their relationship blossomed, and eventually, they committed themselves to each other.

Ruth discovered that Boaz was a relative of Elimelech; therefore, he had the right to redeem her according to Jewish law. This meant that he could marry her and continue the lineage of Jesus. Under the law of the day, when one was widowed, the next brother in line was to marry his brother’s wife. In this case, however, there was no brother. So, under the law, the next of kin, whoever that was, could marry the widow and carry on the family name.

But there was a problem. There was another redeemer or relative. By law, Boaz had to meet with him to discuss his interest in marrying Ruth. The first redeemer decided to relinquish his right to marry Ruth and, subsequently, the land of Naomi. They used an interesting agreement strategy. They brought in the elders of the city to witness the agreement.  The agreement was ratified by exchanging one single shoe with each other.

This gave Boaz the right to marry Ruth, making him the kinsman redeemer. As a result of their marriage, Ruth gave birth to a son named Obed. Obed was the father of Jesse, who became the father of David. And David as we know was in the promised lineage of the Messiah’s birth.

From this story, there are several lessons. First, blessings come when we bless others. Ruth could have gone her own way, but she blessed Naomi by staying with her. Ruth’s love was evident in all that she did. When we bless others, we focus on them rather than our problems.

The second lesson is that loss is hard, but we can trust God in every situation. While dealing with loss, it is sometimes hard to see an end to things. The way seems dark and hopeless, but as we trust God, He provides a way.  For Ruth and Naomi, the way seemed impossible. But God sent the kinsmen redeemer to make a way for them and bring them into his family.

The third lesson of this story is that it is a picture of what Christ does for us.  We are lost and hopeless, and we need someone to redeem us. Jesus did that on the cross and, in so doing, draws us into His family. We are no longer alone. We are connected. All that is His is ours through His death on the cross.

Therefore, we do not have to face loss and grief by ourselves. He is with us, and we have an incredible family around us. Sometimes the grief is so hard that we do not see hope, but it is there.

So, let me ask you?

1. What lessons do you learn from the study of Ruth? What truths revealed in this story can you apply in your life?
2. Have you experienced loss? Where have you seen God provide for you in your loss?
3. We can know that God will come through, but it still surprises us when He does. Where has God surprised you?
4. Where have you helped someone else when you were in pain? What benefits did you realize in doing this?
5. As I often do, I recommend you do a gratitude journal where you list the ways God has blessed you and you have witnessed His grace.

© Robert Odom 2023